Communicate Like Kids

In previous episode we talked about a very key issue; trust. We understood how and why to build a golden trust with our partners.
Let move on to another pillar that sustains relationship.

But before then, let us define communication. “Communication is the transmission of thoughts or feelings or a connection allowing access between persons or places”. These definitions will aid us to appreciate the points.

The question is how often do you transmit your feelings and thoughts to your partner? How often do you communicate with your partner? What do you communicate about? How long do you communicate? These are key things you must think about.

So you will be wondering why among other things, I will ask you to communicate like Kids. Have you ever over heard kids talking to each other or one another before?
They do it with all sincerity, they communicate their feelings without restrictions, they communicate frankly with passion and love, they don’t think about what the other person will think. They only think about what they have to say and share. They are always looking for opportunity to talk to their friends about their experiences, and they will do anything to see their friends and communicate what is on their mind.

That is exactly how to communicate in relationship. Talk freely and sincerely. Tell your partner how you feel without pretending. Tell your partner what he/she did that you are not happy with. Tell your partner everything that goes on in your life. Always look for opportunities to share your ideas, thoughts and feelings with your partner.

Communication is not meant to be initiated by a particular person in a relationship, it is a two sided issue. So you must not wait thinking that your partner is the one to initiate the communication. This is one problem that long distance relationships face. The relationship breaks down with one partner saying that the other partner does not communicate with him/her often. What were you doing when he/she was not communicating with you? Which effort did you take to ensure effective communication yourself?

Communication issues are more often than not faced by those in distance relationship as stated earlier. And I can bare witness to tens of relationships breaking down because of lack of effective communication.
A guy went to school and couldn’t get the means to always communicate with his partner, the unfortunate turn out of event is that, when next he met the girl, she was in another relationship. And when he asked why? She stated that she was tired of the lack of communication that existed among them.
This is heart breaking but you can’t blame the girl. Communication is a pillar that sustains relationship.

This is not to say that if there is no effective communication, you can walk out of a relationship, no!!… If you have established the needed trust and you know your partner very well, you will easily survive it.

Don’t let your partner feel lonely, always be there to communicate with him or her because the lesser your communicate with your partner the farther you push him/her to his/her potential suitors.

Communication sustains relationship. Make it Practical